Last week I shared the following post on social media and I wanted to use a longer format to expand on this more fully:
My philosophy on body modification can be broken down into two main parts:
1) Your physical body is your CHOSEN canvas to sculpt, adorn, and express whatever you’d like in this lifetime. 🎨
If we didn’t want the ability to change our body, style, and physique, then we wouldn’t have chosen to be human. I firmly believe that your body is a canvas that provides an opportunity to play with expression (among other things). The desire to emit radiance/beauty/strength/vitality and whatever else through the body is natural and normal.
I do not agree with the body positivity movement about abandoning the desire to be beautiful in favor of neutrality. Good luck with that.
EXPANDED:
Humans love to evolve and express, and our physical bodies are just one medium of our inevitable expansion.
We love discovering and experiencing things that have never been seen or done before… that includes unexplored territory with the physical body. Think: the 4 minute mile, spontaneous remissions, my breast growth (despite the fact that it’s not considered possible outside of puberty, pregnancy, or weight gain).
DAVID GOGGINS! This man has built an entire career on proving the body is more capable than the mind perceives. Now, his approach isn’t in alignment with the lifestyle I personally choose to cultivate, but you get the idea. He’s exploring uncharted territory of the physical body. His body and mind are the primary territories in which he pushes the most extreme limits.
While science has an obsession with limits and statistics, our souls experience suffocation around these things. Just feel how soul crushing these statements are:
There’s a 10% chance it will work.
You will never recover.
That’s not possible.
We’re out of options.
You won’t experience that version of your body again.
GAH! Don’t they just suck the life force out of you?! And don’t get me started on the scientific God complex…
Here’s the thing: we love possibilities. We love the new. We love discovery. We love next levels. We thrive feeling into new potentials. In Slut Magic terms, that would look like:
Feeling into next level hotness.
Feeling into next level ease around body modification.
Feeling into next level self love.
Feeling into next level pleasure.
Feeling into next level perspective and expectation.
I happen to believe that your physical body is a canvas for your highest expression on every level. Whether that’s fashion, archetypal energy, physique goals. athletic feats, elevated wellbeing, radiance and magnetism… whatever! Your body is the transmitter for your expression and desires.
Your body is a physical extension of Divine Love, God. Why wouldn’t we be able to find out what’s possible when it comes to the desires related to our physicality when we are meant to explore and express?
The bottom line: let’s have some fun with this medium of expression.
2) Body modification is a lifelong process with no destination.
I repeat: THERE IS NO DESTINATION. Body modification IS inherently a black hole and it’s important that we learn to navigate this responsibly. There will always be more beauty, more vitality, more strength, more radiance, less bloating, clearer skin, less weight, more proficient makeup application, more less more less more less. The metrics don’t have any limits (this is why eating disorders are deadly).
You may think there is finality, but once you get there, the goal posts will move once again.
Every pimple, stray hair, ill-fitting clothing item, and season of life results in expansion of our bodily desires…
You have a baby and discover a new vision for your postpartum body.
Someone dies, the grief makes you lose a bunch of weight, resulting in your desire to look healthy and full again.
You haven’t been attentive to your relationship with food and aren’t feeling your best.
The luteal phase comes around and all of a sudden you “look horrible” despite feeling great yesterday!
It never ever, ever ends. And that’s the point!
Every day, all the time, your cells are dying and being reborn. Your body is always in a state of change. Once you accept the long game, you can chill the fuck out and enjoy the seasons of your body and the desires that emerge.
Just know that a stationary, “perfect body” is a mirage. 🏝️ And depending on your relationship to your body, that can either be a major source of pain, or a major source of pleasure.
The whole reason why I created Slut Magic was so body modification feels like an orgasmic art project instead of an endless torture chamber!
…and that’s the philosophy behind it.
EXPANDED:
In truth, all of our desires feel like a mirage, not because they aren't real or will never materialize, but because once we arrive, a new one emerges.
All our desires keep us moving along an endless path of more more more more more. Beauty and physique are no different.
Think about all the body builders who prepare to be “stage ready,” only to find themselves feeling like shit, desperate to experience pleasure and freedom around food once again. Now, we can have a whole conversation about the eating disorders that come out of bodybuilding, but that’s not the point of my bringing this up.
It’s the emergence of the next desire.
Was being stage ready the final “perfect body?” NO!
What about supermodels who’s livelihood depends on their physique and how they look? Their grooming regimen, the flawlessness of their skin, the whiteness of their teeth, the perfection of their posture.
They could be living in the height of their runway career, drop dead gorgeous, being featured on the cover of magazines. For all intents and purposes, this may be perceived as the final, “perfect body.” But is it? NO!
Why?
Because of the next set of desires! In the midst of peak career success, the next best experience with the physical body is clarified, identified, and desired.
This isn’t to say that the current success is taken for granted, but the awareness of an even better experience is always on its heels.
In the case of models, maybe the next level desire is to feel relaxed and free with food… Or having the ability to prioritize taste and pleasure over macros and calories. Maybe it’s wanting total freedom around fashion and expression through personal style. Maybe it’s feeling secure being seen in lounge clothes. Maybe it’s wanting to step out from under the metaphorical microscope and mentally relax around mirrors. Maybe it’s freedom from comparison. Who knows!
The point here is that our relationship to our physical body, appearance, and self perception can bleed into countless areas. And it never ends!
The more awareness you have around this, the more you will be able to relax in your current state. Remembering… the ride is long and your desires never end. Choosing to make friends with where you are now, and enjoying every step into the next iteration of self.
Let your franticness melt, you’re gonna be doing this awhile.
The sooner you learn to fall in love with the movement toward your next level of physical expression (cosmetic, athletic, or otherwise), the more fun all of this gets to be.
My wish for you is that you learn to get endless pleasure out of your physicality and never-ending desires.